High Tea & Beauty With Paula || thirteenthoughts.com

Hello lovelies, like I mentioned in my previous post that Sunday’s will be a special time on the blog where you will get some fun inside out on your favorite bloggers and people around the internet (so if you have someone in mind who’ll fit into the series, I’d appreciate if you could share their links in the comments below).

So, anywho, when I first thought of this series the first person who came to my mind, was Paula (without a fraction of doubt), I’m sure most of you know her, and in case you don’t then ladies you are in for a treat.

So, grab a cup of hot chocolate, some cookies, put on your fuzzies, for today we have a special guest on the blog – who is charming, exquisite, a paralegal, and a self proclaimed beauty junkie, here’s welcoming the beautiful Paula from thirteenthoughts.com.

Q1. Hi Paula, you are truly beauty with brains, tell us about your journey to US 11 years back, why did you decide to move here?

Aww thanks so much Saman, and thanks you for having me here on your lovely blog! Moving to the US wasn’t actually my decision, I was about 15 at the time and my mom, my brother and my sister moved here to join my dad who’s been living in the US for about 4 years at the time. Moving here wasn’t easy as I didn’t speak English and had to leave all my friends and family behind, it was probably one of the most difficult things I had to go through, especially being a teen, but I definitely wouldn’t change it for the world! I think I’m just lucky because I have not one, but two countries I get to call “home.” 😉 

Q2. For how long have you been married? Share with us some personal/funny married life incidence/s that crack you up every-time you think of it?

I’ve been married for four years and we’ve been together for nearly ten years. Ohh there are so many! I think that some of the funniest and most awkward moments happened when we were dating. On one of our first dates, we went to NYC to see a Broadway show. Since we got there a little early, we decided to get coffee. The coffee place was pretty packed so we grabbed our coffee to go and as we were standing outside the theater, drinking coffee, a pigeon flew by and pooped on my husband’s shoulder. Let’s just say that that the pigeon poop was quite… big. My husband didn’t notice anything and just kept on chatting with me, but everyone who walked by seemed to notice (and hello!? We’re talking about New York City here, there are so many people walking around!). He didn’t know why everyone kept looking at him and I really didn’t want to embarrass him and didn’t know what to say since we’ve just met not too long a go. I felt so awkward.. I was trying to keep a straight face but it was so difficult!! He was talking about a book that he read recently and all I kept thinking was “dude, a bird just pooped on you.” After about a minute and a half, I finally told him and he sort of got angry for a minute (he was wearing a new coat 🙂 ), but we couldn’t stop laughing about it when we were on our way home. 

Me : Do you know in India we say if a bird poops on you it’s considered to be good luck! Your man just got

Lucky that day 😉 

Paula : You know what in Poland we say the exact same thing! It happened to me a
few times (lol!) and the first thing my mom always said, is to buy a
lottery ticket ASAP haha 😉 

Q3. This might be an awkward thing to answer but how to do you feel about farting in front of your other half?

Haha! I think that just because you feel comfortable enough to do it in front of your partner, you shouldn’t do it… too often. 🙂 

Q4. Clearly you are a Paralegal, how did you find your endearing love for blogging? Also how do you balance your time? – By the way your content is so fresh and engaging!

Thank you so much! I actually had my first blog when I was about 13-14, but back then blogs were sort of online journals. I always had a lot of love for beauty products, and besides makeup and skincare, I didn’t have too many hobbies. One day I just grabbed a camera, started taking pictures of some of the products I loved, and I got the idea of starting a blog. After starting Thirteen Thoughts, I started learning more and more about photography as well as blogging and it turned into a passion. Balancing everything is definitely not easy, especially when you’re also working full time and have a house to take care of. I pretty much spend every single free minute I have, working on my blog. I find it much easier to write in the morning, when it’s nice and quiet. Most days, I get up around 5.30 am, make myself some green tea, do some writing, then make breakfast and lunch for my husband, after he leaves for work I spend a few more minutes answering e-mails and replying to comments before I leave to go to work. After work is usually when I visit some of my favorite blogs and catch up with comments. Most of my photography is done during the weekends. 

Q5. You have a knack for photography, how did you brush up your photography skills, was it a gradual fiddling around with the camera or did you take some basic lessons?

 It was definitely a very long and gradual process. I read a lot of books, did a lot of research. I’m also definitely a bit of an autodidact and I learn a lot of things through trial and error- photography being one of them! 

Q6. I see your blog is a good mix of everything, which is your most read blogpost till date and which of the blogpost is absolutely dear to you?

Photography is without a doubt the most popular category on my blog and the most popular blog post is Photography Tips for Bloggers. My favorite blog post that I’ve written so far is How to Love Yourself- My Journey from Self-Hatred to Love (http://www.thirteenthoughts.com/2916/throwback-thursday-love-yourself). I don’t think it’s an exceptionally well-written post, but writing it and publishing it really helped me. I went through depression a few years a go, I also suffered from anxiety and things like self-acceptance and self-love is something that I’ve struggled with at the time. Writing that post was very personal, but at the same time putting it out “there” really made me realize how far I’ve come and how my outlook on life has changed over the years. This is also one of the reasons why I love writing about things like personal development and growth. When I write about these things, it always comes from the heart and I always use my own experience as a reference. I’ve learned a lot about myself and about life in general during last couple of years and I love inspiring others. 

Q7. Do you wear makeup on daily basis? If so, then how do you change things up for special occasion?

I do wear makeup on daily basis but I usually like to keep things to a minimum: foundation, usually a mauve-y or nude lipstick, eyeliner, mascara and some blush. I definitely love going “all out” for special occasions: big curls, bright or intense lipstick, natural-looking contour and I also love false eyelashes! I really like the whole process of getting ready for a big night (or day!) out: I put some music on and just have fun…..and my vanity/closet room always looks like a big mess the next day! 🙂 

Q8. Cant live without beauty ritual?

I love doing my nails. Back in High School I was obsessed with acrylics, but nowadays I’m all-natural when it comes to nails. I don’t need to wear makeup, I can put my hair up in a bun, but I always, ALWAYS need to have my nails done. I love the whole process of prepping, priming and painting my nails- I find it very soothing and relaxing. 

Q9. Any regrettable beauty moment?

 I’m definitely guilty of over-plucking my eyebrows when I was in my late teens/early twenties. Whenever I look at old pictures of myself,  I can’t help but wonder “what in the world was I thinking?!” My left eyebrow suffers the consequences to this day!

Q10. One product that stood the test of time ?

Hmm.. can I mention two products? 😀 Makeup-wise it’s Make Up For Ever’s Mat Velvet+ Mattifying Foundation. It’s my absolute favorite that works great with my skin, it’s natural-looking, has great coverage and it’s very long-lasting. Skincare-wise it’s Mario Badescu’s Facial Spray with Aloe, Herbs and Rosewater- I can’t live without it!

Q11. Any non-beauty ritual/s to feel great?

I love meditating and practicing gratitude. It’s something that helped me deal with my anxiety and it’s become a habit. Every day, when I wake up, I mediate for a few minutes, then I think about how great the day ahead is going to be. As I’m driving to work I think about the things in my life that I am grateful for. Right before I go to bed, I also think about the best thing that’s happened to me that given day, and thank for it. It doesn’t matter how difficult or stressful my day was, I  always find at least one really good thing that happened that day. When I first started doing this, it felt kind of silly, but it made a huge difference in my life. I love fashion, I love makeup and skincare but I think that practicing self-love, gratitude and positivity is what really helped me gain that confidence to go after what I really want in life. 

Q12. Lastly do you have a bed time routine to wind off?

My bedtime routine is pretty simple; after taking a shower I cleanse, tone and moisturize my skin and I love making sure that I have a big glass of water on my nightstand so that I can drink it the first thing in the morning. I also love making sure that my kitchen is clean- I really don’t like waking up to a sink full of dishes haha! Last thing I do before turning off the lights is take magnesium- it helps me relax, and I follow with my gratitude ritual that I’ve mentioned above. Plus some lip balm. Can’t forget about lip balm! During Autumn/Winter I love using a humudifier at night- it really helps my skin as the air at home tends to be very dry during this time of year. 

Q13. I see you have a tattoo on the side of your back, what does it say? Do you have any more tattoos? What do you have to say about them?

Yay 13 questions!! 13 is my favorite number 😀 The tattoo that’s on the side of my back goes almost all the way down to my hip and it says “Be patient and tough some day this pain will come useful to you” in Latin. I got it done when I was going through depression. I treated it as a reminder to stay strong. When I had those days when I didn’t feel like getting up, going to work, going to school, I’d look at it every time I got dressed, and it kept me going. Right now whenever I look at it, it reminds me how far I’ve come as a person. I also got a tiny butterfly tattooed on my hip/pelvis area when I turned 18, it’s a little cliché (ok.. it’s very cliché) and it’s supposed to represent freedom that comes with turning eighteen. I definitely don’t regret getting it, as cliché as it may seem 😀 I also have another tattoo on my left forearm- a red flame and a ram symbol which represents Aries- my zodiac sign and Fire- which is the element associated with Aries. 

Thank you so much again for having me over on A Beauty Detour, Saman! I had
so much fun answering your questions and I’m really honored to be the
first blogger to be featured in this new series, I’m sure it’ll be a
great success!! 🙂

Aww thank you Paula for your time and letting us in your behind the scenes I guess, you are truly a wonderful person and your blog is for sure inspirational, fun and colorful.

I hope you enjoyed reading her answers as much as I enjoyed reading them – and don’t forget to follow her on 

Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and Bloglovin’

Until next time, Xoxo!

*All Pictures Belong To Paula*


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